You meet a chick, fall in “love” with her, and wife her up. But you skipped arguably the most important part. The research.
A lot of dudes have no idea about the basics needed to procure sustainable female companionship.
Words by PHLIP
For those of you connected to me on the social networks, you see that I am an entertaining mix of opinion, advice and activism (<– hey, alliteration!). Sometimes the "opinion" side of that is caged in sometimes-snarky/sometimes-poignant commentary about dating…
Recently, I tossed out a gem that said:
Take her on a lunch date to Barnes & Noble…
TELL her where you’re taking her, curve her ass if she balks.
A good cafe for a decent lunch and coffee, plenty of seated space for amazing conversation and even if you wind up buying a book or two, you’ve still spent less than a night out for dinner and drinks.
The pretty bow on top of this is that any woman willing to chill with you in a giant f*cking book store is at least smart enough to be a reader and forward thinking enough to see your creativity.
As with a good many of these random recommendations, a conversation was born and I found that a great MANY women of considerable quality (read: non-thot-types) would be OPEN to creative dates like that. Some even further welcoming the frugality of such an undertaking. I was told that I need to be teaching some kind of class on things like this, apparently since my approach to the use of my money leads to creativity that amounts to some kind of a special ability.
So here we are, 5 dates you can go on without breaking the bank in no particular order…
1 – The book store
Look, I could go BACK into excruciating detail, but you should have already read about this by the time you get here in this post.
2 – The museum
If you listen to NPR (no, I am not telling you to if you don’t), you will find that certain times EVERY year there are times that every museum in this country will allow free entry. Some are already free as it were. Further, if you bank with Bank of America you should look at your account online and learn what museums offer free entry as a perk of being a BoA customer.
3 – COOK, dummy!
Listen… I know some of you just can’t cook without the fire marshal getting involved. Coming soon, I will grace these very pages with instructions on how to whip up good food very easily and we will keep the expenditures for each meal under $25 (drinks extra).
The point, here is that women LOVE a dude who can get down in the kitchen, same as men do a woman who can. Further, this is the PERFECT chance to prove you were paying attention when they told you what they likes. Lastly, the willingness to get your hands this dirty is the kind of effort that any human want to be shown in an interested suitor/suitress.
(Note: do this WITH them present.)
4 – Volunteer
Common interests… Get out and rally. Help habitat build a house. Feed some homeless people. Collect clothes for kids in need.
Again, do something that shows your capacity to be a human being and be with someone who shares common interests.
5 – Go play outside
Yes, I am being VERY serious right now. Sometimes we find the best of ourselves in a reversion to a time when life was simpler. Take the dog to a park and play catch/fetch. Go fishing. GO bicycle riding. Walk around that park and throw a frisbee. This one is totally freestyled, and the sky is the limit. This one is especially good for people with small children they ostensibly can’t just get rid of. Bring ’em along, give them the opportunity to get involved or go over there and do their own thing.
Naturally, this list is not the be-all-end-all, the beauty of this is that now you’re actively considering what you CAN do without killing the bank account. Considering a “night on the town” will cost you appetizer, entree, drinks and/or dessert, the mid-day lunch you will have to buy for 4 of the 5 above will make up most of the expense of your outing, and you just don’t get it if that EVER costs you more than a twenty.
More importantly, now you’re being creative about doing new things, or at least revisiting things you’ve forgotten that you enjoy(ed) doing. Hell, these are even “homebody friendly” solutions, as EVERY SINGLE ONE has you home and in your pajama pants at a reasonable time.
… and if you’re giving time to someone who can’t appreciate that then you should revisit who you’re giving your time to and why.
Words by PHLIP
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